Malaysian etiquette: 12 customs every visitor should know

Malaysians are famously warm and welcoming, and nobody expects visitors to know every custom. Still, a few simple habits will help you fit in and show respect in a country where Malay, Chinese, Indian and indigenous cultures live side by side.

12 customs to know

• Shoes off indoors. Remove your shoes before entering homes, mosques and temples. A pile of shoes at the door is your cue.
• Use your right hand. Give and receive money, food and gifts with your right hand, or with both hands for extra politeness.
• Point with your thumb. Pointing with your index finger is considered rude. Use your thumb with the fingers folded instead.
• Gentle handshakes. Handshakes are soft, and many Malays touch their heart afterwards. Some Muslim women and men prefer not to shake hands with the opposite sex, so let them offer first.
• Uncle and auntie. Older people are often addressed as “uncle” or “auntie”, even by strangers. It’s respectful, not cheeky.
• Dress modestly at religious sites. Cover shoulders and knees at mosques and temples. Some places lend robes or sarongs.
• Don’t touch people’s heads. The head is considered sacred, so avoid patting anyone on the head, including children.
• Keep affection private. Holding hands is fine, but kissing in public is frowned upon.
• Respect halal food. Don’t bring pork or alcohol to a Muslim home or offer them to Muslim friends.
• Tipping isn’t expected. Many restaurants add a service charge. Rounding up for good service is appreciated but optional.
• Learn a few words. “Terima kasih” (thank you) and “boleh” (can, OK) go a long way.
• “Tapau” is your friend. It means takeaway, and you can ask for it almost anywhere.

A note on “lah”

You’ll hear Malaysians add “lah” to the end of sentences, as in “OK lah” or “Can lah”. It softens what’s being said and is part of the local English known as Manglish. You don’t need to use it, but it’s fun to listen for.

Frequently asked questions

What should I wear in Malaysia?

Light, breathable clothes are fine in cities and beaches. Cover up more at religious sites and in conservative areas such as Kelantan and Terengganu.

Is it rude to eat with your left hand in Malaysia?

When eating with your hands, use your right hand. With cutlery, either hand is fine.